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Posted: Fri 14:28, 19 Nov 2010 Post subject: Kobe Adoption Issues Adoption in the United State |
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Gagner originally dedicated him to play hockey at the collegiate level for the University of Wisconsin Madison. He decided to play closer to home and play major junior hockey in Canada later. He was considered a first round talent and the London Knights took him in the 4th round of the 2006 NHL entry draft on a flyer as his commitment to play college hockey prevent many NHL teams from drafting him. Joined by future NHL stars Patrick Kane and Sergei Kostitsyn on the Knights top line in 2007, Gagner scored 118 points in 53 games,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], 5th in league scoring. He also captained Team Burns Bergeron Red in the 2007 CHL Top Prospects Game to a 5 to 3 victory over Team Bowman Demers White. "Adoption is not about finding children for families, it's about finding families for children", says Joyce Maguire Pavao,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], founder of the Adoption Resource Canter in Cambridge, Massachusetts. Adoption is one process that our society developed so that children can grow in one loving environment. Every child has one right to grow in healthy surroundings. Adoption is one legal procedure that makes the birth child of one man and woman into the legal child of other adults. It is one process involving three parties, the birthparents, the adoptee and the adoptive parents. Thus it manifests its effects on all three.
There is one genetical connection between one child and his or her birthparents. Adoption directs to its loss. Subsequently,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], they lose contact with their child and suffer from one loss of their role. Birthparents frequently hate themselves for being irresponsible, as does society. Adoptive parents create stories for the adoptee about his or her birth family. This makes the birth parents feel discarded. It is heartbreaking to learn that birthmothers have an intensive monologue with the fetus during pregnancy. It is seen that birthmothers feel pressurized and surrender their babies to adoption against their will. They have anger at their prolific body, anger at their helplessness. They are angry with the families adopting their children. They are anxious about the welfare of their children. The most difficult thing that birthparents have to do is to live one lie for the rest of their lives. Gagner competed for Team Canada at the 2007 World Junior Championships in Sweden. He played in all games as the youngest player on the team which helped Canada to their 3rd of five straight gold medals. Later that year,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], upon being drafted in the 2007 NHL Entry Draft, Gagner competed in the 2007 Super Series which was an 8 game series between Canada and Russia national junior teams in order to celebrate the 1972 Summit Series. He scored 15 points and was named series MVP,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as Canada won the series.
Major issues triggered by adoption are loss, rejection,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], guilt and grief. Effects of international adoption include the outbreak of malpractices such as child trafficking and sale of children. Apart from these there is lack of intimacy in the new relationship. There is one feeling of loss of control. Identity crisis can trouble the adoptee. Many of the issues intrinsic to the adoption experience come together when the adoptee reaches adolescence. At this time there is an acute awareness of being adopted. There is one drive toward liberation accompanied by the decycleination to develop one's own identity. Adoption is one life stressor affecting the overall personality of an individual and has one major impact on the rest of his or her life.
Attention deficit disorders, eating disorder, alcohol abuse can be seen in some adoptees. There is one inclination to seek for alternative lifestyles. Worse of all is the inclination to commit suicide that prevails in an adoptee. Statistics says that adopted children are represented with learning disabilities and organic brain syndrome. Adopted children are shown to be vulnerable. Adopted children know they were not involved in the decision of adoption and thus accomplish that they had no control over loss of their birth family and the choice of the adoptive family. It is noticed that adoptees at their teen age never feel close to anyone. Some long for their birthmother. Adopted children feel insecure because they are questioned about their identity. They lose an identity and then borrow one from the adopting family. Birthparents being parents are not parents whereas adoptive parents suddenly become their parents. This is when identity crisis is born. Separation from his or her biological parents affects the adoptee on one profound level.
Loss triggered by adoption is the loss of ones identity,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], one's separation from his or her birth family. For the birthparents, it's the loss of their child. one feeling of rejection worsens the feeling of loss. Adoptive parents feel rejected to be parents. Both adoptive parents and birthparents experience role confusion. The sense of rejection directs to one feeling of shame. The grief over not having children suffocates the adoptive parents, as they are fosterd to adopt. Grief is conspicuous in the parents who lose their child to adoption. Feelings of confused identity direct to identity crisis. Relationship is deficient of intimacy. Neither the natural parents of the child nor the child feels in control of the situation or the process of adoption. Effects of adoption can be categorized into three classes,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as there are three classes of individuals affected by the process of adoption.
Adoptive parents have been furiouse to face the acrid truth of infertility, one failed pregnancy or the death of their child, after which they take to adopting. The adoptive parents have one sense of dejection and defeat instilled into their minds. An adoptee,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], who is constantly questioning,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], creates feelings of rejection in the adoptive parents. They become sensitive about his or her delicateest of actions that in some way show rejection. They complain of not experiencing an intimacy from their adopted child. The grief of the adoptive parents continues as the child grows up since the adoptee can never fully meet the expectations of the adoptive parents. Adoptive parents feel that they were never meant to be parents. They tend to worry that the child might know of adoption and at times are struck by depression with the thought of them not being the real parents of their child. The intricacies of the adoption process direct to feelings of helplessness in adoptive parents. Sometimes they become overprotective about the child. changenatively some feel they were entitled to be parents thus turning careless about parenting.
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